Tuesday, August 4, 2009

How to approach women.

Today, I'm going to share some critical information with you on how to approach women.

If you want the best chance of having a successful approach with an attractive woman, it's CRUCIAL to convey several things:

1. That you are NOT desperate at ALL.
2. That you are DOMINANT AND MEAN BUSINESS.
3. That you are being SPONTANEOUS.
4. That you are SINCERE.
5. That you are a WINNER in LIFE.

Notice how NONE of the things mentioned above are about how INCREDIBLY AWESOME you think SHE is. That's because, if you are the kind of MAN she wants to meet, then in HER mind, she's thinking that you should be able to attract women like her without a problem, so she really shouldn't be a big deal to you.

Now, let's go through the above elements, and HOW TO CONVEY THOSE ELEMENTS TO A WOMAN.

It's important to realize that in order to convey something to a woman, you must understand how WOMEN interpret things, even if the way they interpret things is COMPLETELY WRONG!


#1. NOT BEING DESPERATE AT ALL


First of all, anything that indicates EFFORT to speak to her, on your part, is a signal to a woman that you are desperate.

Notice I said EFFORT, not COURAGE.

Let me give you examples of indicating too much effort:

You see a woman in a mall, walking, and she is FAR away from you. If you want to approach her, do not let her see that you are running half way across the mall to approach her! Instead, you should set it up so that you walk ahead of her without her noticing that you have noticed HER, then casually slow down, turn a bit as if you are looking at something, and VOILA- she just "happens" to walk right toward you. NOW you can do your thing- after all, she was right in front of you, right- it was NO BIG DEAL...lol

Second, anything that puts her on a pedestal also reeks of desperation. This includes over-use of compliments, (I prefer to use none) especially on her beauty. Also, agreeing with everything she says and constant smiling and nodding also reeks of desperation. It says that you are treating her as if she has THE POWER TO MAKE YOU SO DAMN HAPPY- this THROWS ALL THE POWER IN HER COURT, and makes you seem INFERIOR.

After all, if you are not desperate, then why are you getting so excited and happy from her? Let HER smile instead. Giving her too much approval, too much attention, leaning in to her physically or metaphorically, all add up to d-e-s-p-e-r-a-t-i-o-n in her mind. Also, I should mention that acting MEAN does NOT SHOW that you are not desperate, it actually shows that you are indeed bitter and desperate.


2. BEING DOMINANT AND MEANING BUSINESS

Women can tell IMMEDIATELY if a guy lacks guts- if he is less than dominant, when he approaches them and opens his mouth. Sometimes, even BEFORE he approaches them, women can tell if he is a submissive little boy.

How ?

Simple: If a guy STARES at a woman instead of just IMMEDIATELY approaching her, a woman knows the guy is TOO NERVOUS to act on his DESIRE. So if you ever see a woman you'd like to approach, don't let her in on it before you have decided to TAKE ACTION.

Now, it's best to just go up immediately, so you don't over analyze the situation and bog yourself down with doubts, but if you have no idea what you are going to say, (i.e. you need to figure out a tease to say), then don't look at her as you are figuring out what you are going to say. Figure it out, and THEN IMMEDIATELY approach her. Meaning "business" is especially important when you ask for an email, or if you suggest an "instant date". Let's say you've chatted it up with a woman for a few minutes, and then you ask for her email...

At this point, I believe a woman makes a subtle TEST...she wants to see if you MEAN BUSINESS, or if you are just playing around, or if you are too scared to really do this kind of thing, etc, etc.

DO NOT SMILE when you ask for the email. Look her straight in the eye, totally calm, without fear, without smiling. You are being a man, offering a woman something she WANTS. Sugar coating it with smiles, etc, only makes it look like you are trying to sell her a raw deal. And if there is a pause, a silence, DO NOT FILL THE "uncomfortable" quiet by saying ANYTHING.

You asked her for her email, and now she has a CHOICE to say yes no or maybe. But if YOU fill the void, it's a sign of you NOT being confident, it's a sign of you trying to find a way out of this "emotional risk" (which is really no risk when you think about it)- and that would not be sexy. During that pause, she will be checking your expression to see if you are a MAN. If she sees you MEAN it, and are offering her NO EASY WAY OUT to lessen the rejection you may face, it shows her you are not afraid of the consequences of your asking, because you MEAN IT and are prepared to accept whatever may happen.

This is NOT desperation, it's MEANING BUSINESS.

By the way, in terms of dominance, it's crucial not to make the mistake of thinking this means to be a JERK. What it really means is to behave in a way that only a guy who is TOO COMFORTABLE with her can. Being a smart-ass can sometimes convey dominance as well- here's an example:

Once, I was at a trendy clothing store and teasing the girl who worked there, telling her the caps on display (which had a "beat up" look) were defective merchandise...she laughs and tells me it's the style, I tease her some more and say "Sure, you get this stuff at a garage sale and then call it "the latest style" " She laughs more.. then I take the hat and put it ON HER HEAD...and I take a long moment...as if I am deciding if it looks good or not on her, instead of just kissing up.... She was EATING THIS UP...loving every second of it. This is what I mean by dominance, as opposed to being a jerk.

#5 BEING A WINNER

Women are attracted to men who are in CONTROL of their lives and their emotions. So being a pessimist, or full of hate, or being a whiner or complainer is not a good idea. Droopy posture doesn't help either. Equally important is being the kind of person who is passionate about life, who ENJOYS life, who has goals in life, and has a plan, and is putting the plan into action. FOR HIMSELF, NOT IN ORDER TO PLEASE ANY WOMAN.

Now, you could LIE about yourself, but why not actually find the things you are interested and passionate about and become involved in them? Most of what holds us back is fear, and when you abandon your fears and go for your goals, it not only makes your life more enjoyable, but others become drawn toward you as well. Since the beginning, women have needed men for survival, who could endure a hostile environment laden with numerous threats and unpredictable situations.

Think about the personality of a man who thrived in such an environment- he was a go-getter, he was not a pessimist, and yet he was also not living in a FANTASY, either he knew the realities and DEALT with them. Women still are attracted to that kind of man. And if you want to learn more about how to meet women ANYWHERE, how to take things from initial encounter to getting physical, to how to deal with any "tests" that women will throw your way, and how to succeed at a relationship if you desire to have one, then you need to download my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women.

"How to Approach a Woman" - Are You a Loser If You Ask This Question?

Well let me answer that straight away: No you are NOT a loser if you have to ask how to approach a woman.

I am not a loser, and I was asking this question six months ago. At that time, I didn't have a lot of confidence around women...Maybe you are feeling the same right now.

You see, most men don't know how to approach a woman. Some men are lucky - They are exceptionally good looking, or they just happen to get in a situation where a beautiful girl falls for them. Or maybe, they are one of the lucky few who are "naturals" when it comes to approaching girls.

Most of us though, don't have this skill by nature. And we most certainly don't learn it in school.

So what do we do? Well most men choose to settle for anything that they can get (if they can get any at all...) while they look at the woman they would really like to call theirs.. But they know they will never be confident enough to approach her.

You, however, did something different. You searched for an answer to the question that was bugging you: How to approach a woman. You are trying to overcome your problem.

In my book that doesn't make you a loser - it makes you a winner! You realized that you were lacking a certain skill, so you went to look for training. That's a perfectly reasonable thing to do, and the first step in the right direction if you want to become good (or even great) at approaching women.

Listen, I will point you to the book that has changed my life six months ago.

Click here to read a free sample chapter from the book that I found when I was trying to learn how to approach a woman. Last time I checked, the guy who runs it was even offering a free mini-course. If he still has that offer, do yourself a huge favor and take it!

The Best Ways to Approach Women - What to Do and What Definitely Not to Do!

Approaching women is a huge fear amongst many men (unless you are a modern day Casanova) and it is this crippling fear that even if you pluck up the courage to go over to that attractive woman, you end up fumbling about and losing confidence and she just doesn't want to know.

Fortunately, there are some simple and easy things you can do that will make approaching women much easier and will give you a much higher success rate where she gives you her phone number for that all important first date:

1.) The All-important 'Smile'

Women make up their minds about whether they want to talk to you or not in the first few seconds of meeting you, so it is super important that you make those first impressions count.

That is why you absolutely need to approach women with a genuine smile on your face. Look happy that you're going over to meet her, this warm smile will really help to relax her and feel more comfortable around you, and this in turn will have a greater influence on her decision to like you or not.

2.) Just Be Confident

This is not always easy to do when you are quaking with fear at the thought of what you are going to say once you get over there, but you really do need to have confidence when you approach a woman. Women are great at sensing edginess and nervousness in men and usually it is a big turn off.

3.) Don't be Smart!

One thing you definitely don't want to do is to try and be clever or smart with your conversation. Don't crack stupid jokes or try and come across as a know-it-all. These are definitely things that will kill your chances with most women dead. Just be pleasant and friendly and complimentary and you should see your success rates increase dramatically.

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How to Approach Attractive Women

How to Approach Attractive Women

Every man wants to date a woman they find attractive, but many settle for someone they're only moderately attracted to, because they don't think they can compete with all the studs out there. This is a very, very silly and totally self-limiting concept; it's also total BS. Every man, no matter what his appearance, has the capacity to raise his level of attractiveness by several points. Sadly, few men realize what it is that really attracts women and they wind up treading water at the "about average" level. If you want to join the next league and put yourself in the running for a hottie, it's a lot easier than you think. All you need to do is be totally confident and sincere. These tips for approaching an attractive woman can be used on any woman, but they are especially important when it comes to getting the number of a woman you think is out of your league.

Facts about attractive women

* Attractive women know they're attractive -- men are fairly obvious about showing their interest levels and good-looking women will be fully aware of their magnetism by the time they reach their 20s.
* Attractive women are still insecure on some level. This is especially true of those who dress to the nines on a regular basis; the more dolled up, the more effed up, if you'll pardon the expression.
* All women, attractive or otherwise, have set standards, but they aren't necessarily related to physical appearance. This doesn't mean that they will deliberately seek out an unattractive man just because he's a rocket scientist -- it means that an unattractive rocket scientist has the potential to become very attractive if he knows how to work what he has.
* Attractive women over the age of 25 have usually had their fill of being a trophy girlfriend and will often avoid overly attractive men because they tend to lack substance. An average looking man with a good personality and charm stands a good chance of scoring one of these girls for exactly that reason.
* Attractive women who spent their youth as an ugly duckling may seem particularly appealing due to reduced ego settings, but be aware that these women tend to go back and forth when it comes to self-esteem; simply looking good isn't always a big enough band-aid for hurtful memories. As such, these women will take a good deal more effort than women who've always been attractive.

How to approach an attractive woman.


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Be a real man.

You're the man here and you need to be in charge of the conversation if you want an attractive woman to take notice and respect you. You've got to be able to make her feel like you know what you're doing or she'll write you off as an inexperienced boy.
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Get her phone number.

Get either her mobile number or her landline, whichever she's more comfortable with. Do not settle for an email address; if that's all she offers, she's already written you off. Point out that she can always block your number if she decides you're not worthy. If offers to take yours, she may or may not call use it, so if you really want to see her again, make it clear that you're being sincere about wanting it.
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Call or text the next day.

Calling the day you get her number is a bit much, but waiting more than a day to call a woman who probably has loads of men lusting after her is not going to get your brownie points. If you don't want her to play head games with you, don't start the ball rolling with them.

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Be yourself and be honest.

Attractive women get asked out all the time; show her that you're not just some typical guy trying to prove to himself that he can get a woman in that league. Don't just come out and tell her that she's gorgeous and you'd love to call her sometime. Yeah, you and everyone else! If you really can't come up with a good line, tell her the truth -- tell her that you simply have to get to know her and that you'd love to do it over dinner.
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Be confident and be sincere.

Put your game face on before you approach her. Know that you are cool enough to have that woman on your arm. Believe this, and she'll believe it, too. Don't go up there reeking of insecurity, it will only put her off (unless you're a waffling Hugh Grant look-alike, in which case a stutter might actually work in your favor). Look her straight in the eye and say it like you mean it. Mind, don't say it too intensely, as that could be creepy.
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Be prepared -- but don't be too slick.

Know what you're going to say before you say it. Know what you want to get out the conversation -- don't start chatting about the weather if what you really want to do is invite her to a party. Do not, however, come across like a pro, as that is a major turn-off to all women.

How to Approach a Woman - 3 Proven Ways Which Are Guaranteed to Work Every Single Time

Women can be very intimidating. The fear of rejection becomes even more heightened when you are about to approach a woman you like. Men all around the world are faced with this fear every single day. No matter where you look, there are beautiful women. But they are humans just like us and also have their very own fears. Why should it be any different?

Here are 3 ways to approach a woman that work every time- You won't be rejected:

1. Women will always be attracted to "manly men". You need to act confident and like you know exactly what you are talking about and doing when you approach her (even though you may have no clue). Stand up tall and wear your best clothing. Do as much as you can to feel better about yourself before approaching her. Your stud-like confidence needs to be genuine, so if you need to lose a couple of pounds or bulk up a bit before approaching her, hit the gym for a few weeks. Just do whatever will make you feel confident.

2. Always approach her slowly. Men who run up on a woman come off as being annoying and desperate. There is a difference between being confident and overly aggressive. Too much aggression can actually seem crude and scare a woman away. Try to imagine you two being friends at the very beginning as to make her feel more open and comfortable with you. A lot of women have an invisible wall up that can be hard to break down. Seeming confident, yet friendly and not too aggressive usually is enough to help her open up to you.

3. Do not have a lot of guys around you when you approach her. To you, your guy friends may be your world and your pals in time of need. They might actually make it easier for you to approach her. But to a woman, a guy who is always around their buddies seems insecure and immature. Break away from your pack when approaching her as not to scare her away. Women usually appreciate a man much more who does not need their buddies to hold their hand in everything they do.

Use these simple techniques when approaching a woman and she will open up to you with much more confidence and ease. Be aware that the woman you are attempting to approach most likely gets hit on all of the time. So try your best as well to stay away from those sleazy pick up lines you are tempted to use. Your number one goal should be getting her attention, so have your cellphone and pager turned off when you are approaching her. This will make her feel important and it can be annoying talking to a guy with a phone that will not stop ringing. If you have to, tell your buddies to back off when attempting to approach her. Friends are friends, but when they interfere with a love interest, it can be pretty frustrating. Be aware of the things that turn a woman off, and you will do just fine.

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How to Get Women to Approach You - Easy Ways to Make a Woman Make the First Move

Did you know that there are some men out there that are getting repeated advances from women, and guess what? They are turning them down. If this happens to be you, then I suggest you look for something interesting to do with your precious bandwidth, and leave the rest of us trying to figure out how we are going to crowd your sacred realm.

How to get a woman to approach you. Sounds absurd, since this is considered a man's work, but what the heck, women play Rugby too. It's the 21st century anything is possible.

Here are some few tips to assist in learning how to get women to approach you.

Understand that attraction has nothing to do with having lots of money and good looks. Male and female attraction is still the same kind of attraction that existed in the stone age. Evolution did little more than just give you the advantage and power of creating the person you desire to be and immediately get you in attraction's line of sight. You have a superb brain, something that can get you anything you want, all that's needed is know how to command it.

This is exactly what girls want to see in a man - someone who lives with a purpose in life. Someone confident, someone she can't have, giving her only a few seconds to introduce herself before you disappear into the mist and become some other woman's target.

Approach life with such an attitude and trust me, they will come and keep on coming, and guess what you will be turning most of them down. Amazing isn't it? Don't forget to smile and have fun in whatever you do.

It's not that easy for a woman to walk up to a man and introduce herself, and its not their fault. Women need to feel the attraction, that something that draws her to you. Find out the secret behind attracting beautiful women